How to Get a Good Latch During Breastfeeding
Posted on May 13, 2026
Table of Contents
- Introduction
- What Exactly Is a Breastfeeding Latch?
- Preparing for the Latch: Creating the Right Environment
- Finding the Best Breastfeeding Positions
- A Step-by-Step Guide to a Deep Latch
- Signs of a Good Latch: How to Know It's Working
- Troubleshooting Common Latch Challenges
- When to Seek Professional Help
- Supporting Your Journey with Milky Mama
- Conclusion
- FAQ
Introduction
Breastfeeding is often described as the most natural thing in the world. However, many parents quickly realize that while it is natural, it does not always come naturally. It is a brand-new skill that both you and your baby are learning at the same time. Think of it like a new dance where you are both figuring out the steps together.
At Milky Mama, we know that getting a comfortable, deep latch is one of the biggest hurdles in those early days. We want you to know that you are doing an amazing job, even when the "dance" feels a little clumsy. This post covers everything from the anatomy of a good latch to specific positions that make feeding easier and more comfortable for everyone. If you want a more hands-on companion while you read, our How to Get a Good Latch Breastfeeding Newborn guide is a helpful place to start.
Our goal is to help you feel confident and supported as you navigate this journey. With the right techniques and a little patience, you can move toward a feeding experience that feels good for you and your little one. Finding a deep latch is key to protecting your comfort and ensuring your baby gets the nourishment they need.
What Exactly Is a Breastfeeding Latch?
Before we dive into the "how," let’s talk about what a latch actually is. A latch is the way your baby attaches their mouth to your breast to feed. It is not just about the nipple. A good latch involves the baby taking a large mouthful of breast tissue, including the nipple and a good portion of the areola.
The areola is the darker circle of skin surrounding your nipple. When a baby latches deeply, your nipple should sit far back in their mouth, near the soft palate. This protects your sensitive nipple tissue from being pinched or compressed by the baby’s gums.
We often talk about a "shallow latch" versus a "deep latch." A shallow latch means the baby is only sucking on the tip of the nipple. This is usually what causes pain, cracking, and soreness. A deep latch, on the other hand, allows the baby to use their tongue effectively to draw milk out while keeping you comfortable.
Why a Good Latch Matters for Your Supply
Breastfeeding works on a system of supply and demand. Your body makes milk based on how much milk is removed from the breast. If the latch is shallow, the baby may not be able to remove milk efficiently. When milk stays in the breast, your body receives a signal to slow down production.
By focusing on how to get a good latch during breastfeeding, you are also protecting your milk supply. When your baby can drain the breast well, your body knows to keep making more. If you ever feel like you need a little extra support in the supply department, we offer products like our Emergency Lactation Brownies.
Key Takeaway: A deep latch protects your nipples from pain and ensures your baby can remove milk efficiently to maintain your supply.
Preparing for the Latch: Creating the Right Environment
It is much harder to get a good latch if you or your baby are feeling stressed, rushed, or uncomfortable. Before you even bring the baby to the breast, take a moment to set the stage.
Start with a Calm Baby
If your baby is already frantically crying, they may have a harder time opening their mouth wide enough for a deep latch. Try to look for early hunger cues before the crying starts. These include:
- Moving their hands to their mouth
- Sucking on their fingers or fists
- Rooting (turning their head toward your chest)
- Making smacking or clicking sounds with their mouth
If your baby is already upset, try some skin-to-skin contact first. Holding your baby against your bare chest can help regulate their heart rate and calm them down. Once they are calm, they will likely be much more patient as you work on the latch.
Get Yourself Comfortable
You might be spending several hours a day breastfeeding, so your comfort is a priority. Use pillows to support your back, arms, and the baby. You should not have to lean forward or hunch over to reach your baby. Instead, use pillows to bring the baby up to the level of your nipple. If you like having a structured lesson to follow, Breastfeeding 101 walks through the basics.
When you are relaxed, your body can more easily release oxytocin. This is the hormone responsible for the "let-down reflex," which is the process of your milk moving through the ducts toward the nipple. Being comfortable helps the whole process move along more smoothly.
Finding the Best Breastfeeding Positions
There is no "perfect" position for every pair. You might find that one hold works great in the morning, while another is better for late-night feeds. Here are some of the most common positions to help you get a good latch.
Laid-Back Breastfeeding (Biological Nurturing)
This is a favorite for many new parents. You recline back on a couch or bed, supported by pillows, but not lying completely flat. You then place your baby tummy-down on your chest.
Gravity helps the baby stay close to your body and allows their natural instincts to take over. In this position, many babies will "scoot" toward the breast and latch on their own. It is a very relaxed way to feed and is often great for babies who are struggling with a shallow latch in more upright positions.
The Cross-Cradle Hold
This position gives you a lot of control over the baby's head and your breast. If you are feeding on the left breast, you hold the baby with your right arm. Your right hand supports the base of the baby’s neck and shoulders, while your left hand supports your breast.
This hold is excellent for newborns because it allows you to guide the baby’s mouth precisely. You can see exactly where the nipple is aiming and how wide the baby’s mouth is opening.
The Football Hold (Clutch Hold)
In this position, you tuck your baby under your arm, much like a football. Their feet point toward your back, and their head is at your breast. This is often a go-to for parents who have had a C-section because it keeps the baby away from the incision site. It is also helpful if you have a strong let-down or larger breasts, as it allows for a very clear view of the latch.
Side-Lying Position
Feeding while lying on your side can be a lifesaver during those middle-of-the-night sessions. You and your baby lie on your sides, facing each other. This allows you to rest while the baby feeds. Just be sure to follow safe sleep guidelines and ensure the baby cannot roll away or be covered by heavy blankets.
A Step-by-Step Guide to a Deep Latch
Once you are in a comfortable position and your baby is calm, you can follow these steps to help them achieve a deep, comfortable latch.
- Align the Baby: Make sure your baby’s ear, shoulder, and hip are in a straight line. They should be facing your breast directly, not having to turn their head to the side.
- Nose to Nipple: Position the baby so that your nipple is pointing toward their nose, not their mouth. This encourages them to tilt their head back slightly.
- The Nipple Tickle: Gently brush your nipple against the baby’s upper lip. This tickling sensation encourages them to open their mouth.
- Wait for the Big Gape: Be patient. Wait until the baby opens their mouth very wide, like a big yawn.
- Bring the Baby to the Breast: When the mouth is wide open, quickly but gently bring the baby onto the breast. Aim their lower jaw well below the nipple so they take in a large portion of the lower areola first.
- Check the Chin: The baby’s chin should be pressed firmly into your breast, while their nose should be just barely touching or slightly away from the breast.
The "Sandwich" Technique
If you have larger breasts or if your baby is struggling to get enough tissue in their mouth, you can try the C-hold or "sandwich" hold. Use your hand to gently compress your breast (with your thumb on top and fingers on the bottom, well behind the areola).
This makes the breast tissue a bit more manageable for the baby to grasp. Imagine you are squeezing a large sandwich so it fits into your mouth—it’s the same concept for your baby! Once the baby is firmly latched and actively sucking, you can usually let go.
Signs of a Good Latch: How to Know It's Working
It can be hard to tell what’s happening when a baby’s face is pressed against you. However, there are several visual and physical cues that indicate a successful latch. If you want a deeper breakdown, our How Do You Know You Have a Good Latch Breastfeeding? 7 Signs guide covers the cues in more detail.
What You Should See
- Wide Open Mouth: The mouth should be open at an angle of about 120 to 140 degrees.
- Flanged Lips: Both the top and bottom lips should be turned outward, like "fish lips." If the lips are tucked in, the latch will likely be shallow.
- Asymmetrical Latch: You should see more of your areola above the baby's top lip than below their bottom lip.
- Rounded Cheeks: The baby’s cheeks should look full and rounded, not sucked in or dimpled.
What You Should Feel
- Comfort: While you might feel a strong "tug" or a stretching sensation, breastfeeding should not be painful.
- Rhythmic Sucking: You should feel a steady, rhythmic pull.
- Softening Breasts: After the feed, your breast should feel softer and lighter than it did before.
What You Should Hear
- Swallowing: Once your milk has come in (usually a few days after birth), you should hear a soft "kuh" sound as the baby swallows.
- Quiet Breathing: You should not hear clicking, smacking, or whistling sounds. These sounds often mean that the seal of the latch is breaking.
Key Takeaway: Look for "fish lips," rounded cheeks, and a deep mouthful of breast tissue. If it hurts, it is okay to break the latch and try again.
Troubleshooting Common Latch Challenges
Even with the best preparation, challenges can arise. Here is how to handle some of the most common issues parents face.
What to Do If the Latch Hurts
If you feel sharp, pinching, or biting pain, the latch is likely too shallow. Do not try to "tough it out." This can lead to nipple damage. Instead, gently break the suction by sliding a clean finger into the corner of your baby's mouth. Once the seal is broken, remove the baby and try again. Sometimes it takes three or four tries to get it right, and that is perfectly normal. For more tips, our Can't Get a Good Latch Breastfeeding? 5 Tips to Fix It guide can help you troubleshoot.
Dealing with Engorgement
When your milk first comes in, your breasts may become very full, firm, and tight. This is called engorgement. It can make it difficult for the baby to latch because the nipple and areola become flattened and hard to grasp.
To help with this, you can try "reverse pressure softening." Gently press your fingertips around the base of the nipple for about a minute to push some of the fluid back. This softens the areola, making it easier for the baby to get a deep latch. You can also express a little milk by hand before the feed to take the pressure off. To learn more about the connection between fullness and supply, our Does Engorged Breast Decrease Milk Supply? What to Know guide is a helpful next step.
The Sleepy Newborn
Some babies are very sleepy in the first week and may struggle to stay latched long enough to get a full meal. To keep them alert, try undressing them for skin-to-skin contact. The change in temperature often helps them wake up. You can also try "breast compressions"—gently squeezing your breast while the baby is latched to send a little burst of milk their way, which often encourages more sucking.
While you are working on keeping your baby alert and engaged, staying hydrated is essential for your own energy. Our Pumpin' Punch™ is a delicious way to stay hydrated and includes ingredients that support lactation.
When to Seek Professional Help
We believe in empowering parents, but we also know that sometimes you need an expert eye. If you are consistently experiencing pain, if your nipples look flattened or wedged after a feed, or if your baby is not gaining weight, it is time to reach out for support.
Lactation Consultants (IBCLCs)
An International Board Certified Lactation Consultant (IBCLC) is a specialist who can observe a feeding session and offer specific adjustments. They can help identify issues like a tongue-tie or lip-tie, which is when the tissue under the tongue or lip is too tight, preventing the baby from moving their mouth correctly.
At Milky Mama, we are big believers in accessible education. Krystal Duhaney founded this company to ensure parents have the support they need. If you cannot see someone in person, look for virtual consultations or online classes to help you troubleshoot your specific situation. Our Certified Lactation Consultant Breastfeeding Help page can connect you with personalized guidance.
Watching for Dehydration and Weight Gain
In the first few days, your baby's weight gain and diaper output are the best indicators that the latch is working.
- Wet Diapers: By day six, your baby should have at least six wet diapers every 24 hours.
- Stools: The color of the baby’s stool should transition from black and sticky to yellow and seedy by the end of the first week.
- Weight: Most babies lose a small amount of weight after birth but should be back to their birth weight by two weeks of age.
If you have concerns about these markers, always consult with your pediatrician.
Supporting Your Journey with Milky Mama
Getting a good latch is the foundation of a successful breastfeeding experience, but your overall wellness matters too. We know how exhausting the early weeks can be. Between the cluster feeding and the learning curve of latching, you deserve to be nourished.
Our range of herbal supplements, like Lady Leche™, are designed to support your body during this time.
If you pump often, Pumping Queen™ is another targeted option for exclusive pumpers.
Remember, "every drop counts," but your mental and physical health are just as important as the milk you produce. If you need a break, take it. If you need help, ask for it. You are doing a wonderful thing for your baby, and we are here to support you every step of the way.
Conclusion
Learning how to get a good latch during breastfeeding takes time, practice, and a lot of patience. It is a physical skill that develops as you and your baby get to know each other. By focusing on comfortable positioning, waiting for a wide-open mouth, and ensuring the baby takes in enough breast tissue, you are setting yourself up for success.
- Always aim for a deep latch to protect your comfort.
- Use pillows and different positions to find what works for your body.
- Listen for swallowing and look for relaxed, rounded cheeks.
- Reach out for help from an IBCLC if you experience persistent pain.
"Breastfeeding is a journey unique to every mother and baby. While challenges are common, support is always available to help you reach your goals."
If you are looking for more tips, community support, or lactation-supporting treats, we invite you to explore our resources. You've got this, and we've got you!
FAQ
How can I tell if my baby has a shallow latch?
A shallow latch usually feels painful or like a pinching sensation during feeding. You may notice that your nipple looks flattened, creased, or like a new tube of lipstick when the baby comes off the breast. Visually, the baby’s mouth will not be open wide, and their lips may be tucked inward rather than flanged out like a fish.
Does a good latch always mean I won't have any nipple soreness?
While a deep latch significantly reduces the risk of damage, many parents feel a bit of tenderness in the first week as their skin adjusts to frequent feeding. However, this should be a mild "toughening up" feeling, not sharp, excruciating, or lasting pain. If you have cracked, bleeding, or blistered nipples, this is usually a sign that the latch needs adjustment.
Can I get a good latch if I have flat or inverted nipples?
Yes, it is absolutely possible to get a good latch with flat or inverted nipples. Since the baby needs to latch onto the breast tissue and not just the nipple itself, the shape of the nipple is less important than the baby’s ability to take a large mouthful of the areola. Techniques like the sandwich hold or using a breast pump for a minute before feeding can help draw the nipple out and make it easier for the baby to attach.
How do I break the latch without hurting myself?
Never pull the baby off the breast while they are still sucking, as this can cause significant pain and nipple damage. Instead, wash your hands and gently slide your pinky finger into the corner of the baby's mouth until you feel the suction break. Once the seal is broken, you can safely remove the baby and reposition them for a better latch.
This product is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease. Consult with your healthcare provider for medical advice.
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